What's wrong with happy people?

Happy people bother me when they start to act like there's something wrong with being unhappy.

Women especially get into this trip where they say things like, "Oh, so and so is so down and depressed. I don't want to be around someone like that."

Truth of the matter is that women who make those comments tend be "happy" because they've learned to live with their head in the clouds, and expect everyone else to do the same. They've realized that it's either "unattractive" to be unhappy, or that reality just isn't worth paying attention to.

So, eventually they think they've found a guy who is "upbeat" and "happy", but it's really just some guy who has learned to mask his feelings really well.

Eventually the "ugly" feelings surface in the form of self-destructive behavior such as drinking, communication problems, and eventually resentment towards his wife for expecting him to be "happy" all the time.

Here's a true story: I used to screw around with this woman who complained that I was too "depressed" for her. LMAO..she ended up dating a guy who beat her into a state of needing to be hospitalized. But, hey, he was such an outgoing, "upbeat" person when he wasn't a psychotic woman-beater.

I hate to sound sexist, but I've known over the years too many women who parade their "happiness" around as though it was a badge of maturity, yet they couldn't properly manage their lives if their lives depended on it. The moral of the story is that it's easy to be "happy" when we naively ignore anything that would make us "unhappy."

BTW, mild depression is actually a sign of intelligence. If Abraham Lincoln were alive today, he'd be on a constant regimen of prozac or even lithium. "Don't be so unhappy and depressed about slavery, President Lincoln, you're bringing us all down."

Heineken Helen wrote:

ignoring anything that would make us unhappy... well eh... what's wrong with that?

Life is an algebraic equation.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NqJAhQJdPeg

Enough said.

sponger wrote:

I hate to sound sexist, but I've known over the years too many women who parade their "happiness" around as though it was a badge of maturity, yet they couldn't properly manage their lives if their lives depended on it. The moral of the story is that it's easy to be "happy" when we naively ignore anything that would make us "unhappy."

Actually strangely I agreed with pretty much everything you said for a change. Strange days indeed.

I would however point out that women are brought up to perpetuate this bullshit happy persona. It's expected, the evidence of it is all around, and many spend a great deal of their lives miserable because they think they are failing by not living up to the unrealistic expectation of being happy.

Otherwise pretty much agreed with what you had to say.

I am the laughing prophet of doom. Sure, I think humans suck and we're turning this planet into an uninhabitable shithole, but I look forward to it all crashing down.