Ok, I'm a wee bit worried!

Heineken Helen

My boyfriend's on a hedonistic stag (bachelor) week in Magaluf in Spain :eek: I don't think I need to say any more, lol, but he called me last night pretty annoyed cos his friends were trying to get him to cheat on me :mad: and he ended up leaving them all in the pub to go back to the hotel early... at about midnight. What the fuck? So at least I know he was in bed last night but he's still got to spend another two nights with these guys and they are his friends so it's not as if he's just gonna sit in. It's not like I don't trust him... but it sounds like there's a lot of unnecessary pressure being put on him and I'm pretty fucking annoyed right now.

surfanddestroy

Heineken Helen wrote:

My boyfriend's on a hedonistic stag (bachelor) week in Magaluf in Spain :eek: I don't think I need to say any more, lol, but he called me last night pretty annoyed cos his friends were trying to get him to cheat on me :mad: and he ended up leaving them all in the pub to go back to the hotel early... at about midnight. What the fuck? So at least I know he was in bed last night but he's still got to spend another two nights with these guys and they are his friends so it's not as if he's just gonna sit in. It's not like I don't trust him... but it sounds like there's a lot of unnecessary pressure being put on him and I'm pretty fucking annoyed right now.

The fact that he has told you this should reassure you really. Just because his friends are a bunch of idiots doesn't mean that he is

SENROCK

Heineken Helen wrote:

My boyfriend's on a hedonistic stag (bachelor) week in Magaluf in Spain :eek: I don't think I need to say any more, lol, but he called me last night pretty annoyed cos his friends were trying to get him to cheat on me :mad: and he ended up leaving them all in the pub to go back to the hotel early... at about midnight. What the fuck? So at least I know he was in bed last night but he's still got to spend another two nights with these guys and they are his friends so it's not as if he's just gonna sit in. It's not like I don't trust him... but it sounds like there's a lot of unnecessary pressure being put on him and I'm pretty fucking annoyed right now.

sorry helen. he could possibly be testing you to get a reaction.

Heineken Helen

surfanddestroy wrote:

The fact that he has told you this should reassure you really. Just because his friends are a bunch of idiots doesn't mean that he is

I know he's not and you're right. The reason I wasn't overly worried about him going was that I've met most of the friends he's going with and they all seem really nice and decent... but it seems to be the ones I HAVEN'T met who are causing all the trouble and apparently there was a LOT of 'trouble' last night :( and he was really disappointed. He seemed quite upset about the whole thing (he was pretty hammered though).

TBH I've absolutely no doubt in HIM... just that it must be pretty fucking difficult being in a place like that with friends like that! And I don't think he's having a good time at all. He said one of his friends got annoyed cos he met two girls from Ireland and he just spent the whole time telling them about me

harmless_little_f***

Not sure if it's much help Helen but when I met him he seemed so smitten, I really don't think he's the type. Got integrity coming out of his arse that bloke.

Heineken Helen

SENROCK! wrote:

sorry helen. he could possibly be testing you to get a reaction.

No... he's really not like that!

Heineken Helen

harmless_little_f*** wrote:

Not sure if it's much help Helen but when I met him he seemed so smitten, I really don't think he's the type. Got integrity coming out of his arse that bloke.

thanks harmless. I agree.. but then I'm slightly biased so it's good to hear it from someone else.

He'd better fucking call me every hour on the hour tonight and tomorrow night (just kidding... kinda )

surfanddestroy

Heineken Helen wrote:

He said one of his friends got annoyed cos he met two girls from Ireland and he just spent the whole time telling them about me

How sickening

harmless_little_f***

Heineken Helen wrote:

thanks harmless. I agree.. but then I'm slightly biased so it's good to hear it from someone else.

He'd better fucking call me every hour on the hour tonight and tomorrow night (just kidding... kinda )

If there's anything to 'worry' about (and there isn't), it's just that he'll have a shit time because every time he feels that kind of pressure, he'll just leave.

vedder_soup

i would be more worried about how smitten he looked with Claudio in those photos...

harmless_little_f***

vedder_soup wrote:

i would be more worried about how smitten he looked with Claudio in those photos...

HAHA! Good call.

Sian-of-the-dead

Heineken Helen wrote:

No... he's really not like that!

No, he's not.
Every time i've met you're bloke i've made comment about how dedicated he is to you and how there really could be no one else in his eyes. I don't think in a million years he'd cheat on you OR try and 'test' you. I agree that him telling you what was going on is a good sign.
If I were you, I'd make it clear that i'd lost some respect for his friends and their plot to get him to cheat. I wouldn't act psycho girlfriend but I would certainly make it clear that what they did was unnecessary and irresponsible. What they chose to do with their own dicks is up to them, but pressuring him into doing something against his character and something he doesn't want to do, is simply childish.
You have a great bloke there, Hels, and the fact that he sat talking to some Irish girls about you is great... he's absolutely smitten, I know that

Heineken Helen

harmless_little_f*** wrote:

If there's anything to 'worry' about (and there isn't), it's just that he'll have a shit time because every time he feels that kind of pressure, he'll just leave.

I know and I don't want him to do that either... even though he woke me up last night I was trying to think what to say that wouldn't have him worrying TOO much about me, cos I still want him to have a good time... just not THAT good of a time . He was pretty angry and disgusted with them and I think he's gonna have to say something to one or two of them today. He did hint that ONE of the lads I know pretty well, who's seriously dedicated to his girlfriend, cheated :( and I think that's what upset him the most.

Why do guys put eachother under such pressure? :(

Heineken Helen

Sian-of-the-dead wrote:

No, he's not.
Every time i've met you're bloke i've made comment about how dedicated he is to you and how there really could be no one else in his eyes. I don't think in a million years he'd cheat on you OR try and 'test' you. I agree that him telling you what was going on is a good sign.
If I were you, I'd make it clear that i'd lost some respect for his friends and their plot to get him to cheat. I wouldn't act psycho girlfriend but I would certainly make it clear that what they did was unnecessary and irresponsible. What they chose to do with their own dicks is up to them, but pressuring him into doing something against his character and something he doesn't want to do, is simply childish.
You have a great bloke there, Hels, and the fact that he sat talking to some Irish girls about you is great... he's absolutely smitten, I know that

Thanks Sian . You lot are really helping... cos the only person I can really talk to about this is my sister... and she's still asleep apparently :eek: so I've been stressing a bit this morning. How am I gonna sleep for the next two nights? Lol. Also, the 'friends' who are pressurising him are the ones I haven't met... but I don't think the others are defending him.

He did tell me though that seeing everything going on there and the way some of the girls are behaving (apparently it's pretty much a meat market) has made him appreciate me even more so that's something I guess.

Sian-of-the-dead

Heineken Helen wrote:

Thanks Sian . You lot are really helping... cos the only person I can really talk to about this is my sister... and she's still asleep apparently :eek: so I've been stressing a bit this morning. How am I gonna sleep for the next two nights? Lol. Also, the 'friends' who are pressurising him are the ones I haven't met... but I don't think the others are defending him.

He did tell me though that seeing everything going on there and the way some of the girls are behaving (apparently it's pretty much a meat market) has made him appreciate me even more so that's something I guess.

It is something... he has respect for you and loves you so much. Tbh in my experience, 'meat market' girls tend to be a bit of a joke in most men's eyes as well as womens. Your man has good taste, after all, he's with you
Having met some of your man's friends also, I didn't like the idea of them encouraging him to cheat, they seemed like a good bunch so i'm glad to hear that they're not the guilty party.
Try not to stress too much, you trust him for a reason and keep reminding yourself that. I know that you'll feel insecure for the next few nights but if you need to, you know you can always give me a call for a chat, morning or night

urbanhippie

He has eyes for no one but you Helen. I could see that after 5 minutes with the guy. I know it's easier said than done, but try not to worry. The fact that he's unhappy with the situation and told you all about it speaks volumes.

He's a good guy and you two are great together.

Heineken Helen

Sian-of-the-dead wrote:

It is something... he has respect for you and loves you so much. Tbh in my experience, 'meat market' girls tend to be a bit of a joke in most men's eyes as well as womens. Your man has good taste, after all, he's with you
Having met some of your man's friends also, I didn't like the idea of them encouraging him to cheat, they seemed like a good bunch so i'm glad to hear that they're not the guilty party.
Try not to stress too much, you trust him for a reason and keep reminding yourself that. I know that you'll feel insecure for the next few nights but if you need to, you know you can always give me a call for a chat, morning or night

thanks again and yes, he does have great taste indeed.

I really do trust him 100% or there'd be no point being in this kinda relationship. Hopefully they're all feeling pretty shitty about themselves today.

So yep, you may be getting a late night call if I don't hear from him before I'm going to sleep. His phone went dead during our chat last night so I really hope he brought his charger with him :eek:

Heineken Helen

urbanhippie wrote:

He has eyes for no one but you Helen. I could see that after 5 minutes with the guy. I know it's easier said than done, but try not to worry. The fact that he's unhappy with the situation and told you all about it speaks volumes.

He's a good guy and you two are great together.

thank you I'm definitely feeling much calmer now!

Collin

So your boyfriend's away for a week, eh?

Maybe it's time I come visit like I've promised

Heineken Helen

Collin wrote:

So your boyfriend's away for a week, eh?

Maybe it's time I come visit like I've promised

Hahahahaa... pm on its way

He lives in England anyway... it's a long distance thing!

South of Seattle

Heineken Helen wrote:

My boyfriend's on a hedonistic stag (bachelor) week in Magaluf in Spain :eek: I don't think I need to say any more, lol, but he called me last night pretty annoyed cos his friends were trying to get him to cheat on me :mad: and he ended up leaving them all in the pub to go back to the hotel early... at about midnight. What the fuck? So at least I know he was in bed last night but he's still got to spend another two nights with these guys and they are his friends so it's not as if he's just gonna sit in. It's not like I don't trust him... but it sounds like there's a lot of unnecessary pressure being put on him and I'm pretty fucking annoyed right now.

He could have said "I'm having the best time of my life. Everyone here is so beautiful"

Either way you might have been annoyed. At least he speaks the truth.

Heineken Helen

South of Seattle wrote:

He could have said "I'm having the best time of my life. Everyone here is so beautiful"

Either way you might have been annoyed. At least he speaks the truth.

Oh no, I'm not annoyed with HIM. He's been dreading this week cos HE thought it would turn out like this but I, having met most of his friends, was reassuring him that it would be ok cos his friends 'aren't like that'. And I AM glad he told me what's going on... if I'd found out later I'd wonder why he didn't tell me. I'm just worried cos... best case scenario... the rest of his holiday is gonna be crap.

Dissidentman

I'm just getting around to reading this, and I don't know either of you - but this doesn't sound like a guy you have to worry about. At the end of the day your BF's choices are his own to make - regardless of his douchebag friends.

audiodave

I'm dumbfounded that someone's friend would try to get them to do that. I just don't get guys or that kind of thinking at all. If I was in his situation I would be as upset and angry as he seems to be, and he definitely did the right thing by telling you, which tells you he has no intention of giving into their demands. But we knew that anyway.

He absolutely adores you, and there's no way in hell he'd choose sex with some "meat market" girl (who i'm sure just oozes class by the way ) over what he has with you. He isn't that kinda guy...he knows it's just sex and that what you two have is very hard to find.

If you ever meat these "friends" just beat them over the head with a potato.

small town beck

Ah that sucks, Hels that his friends would be such asses but as already said I don't think you have anything to worry about!! Why encourage someone to cheat??? Anyway that would be a WHOLE other thread!

Heineken Helen

dissidentman wrote:

I'm just getting around to reading this, and I don't know either of you - but this doesn't sound like a guy you have to worry about. At the end of the day your BF's choices are his own to make - regardless of his douchebag friends.

Thanks and yep, I agree. I'm not the kinda girl though to say 'cheat and I'll fucking kill you', I like to think I can trust him enough to make that kinda decision himself. He seems to be doing quite well though

Heineken Helen

audiodave wrote:

I'm dumbfounded that someone's friend would try to get them to do that. I just don't get guys or that kind of thinking at all. If I was in his situation I would be as upset and angry as he seems to be, and he definitely did the right thing by telling you, which tells you he has no intention of giving into their demands. But we knew that anyway. : )

He absolutely adores you, and there's no way in hell he'd choose sex with some "meat market" girl (who i'm sure just oozes class by the way ) over what he has with you. He isn't that kinda guy...he knows it's just sex and that what you two have is very hard to find.

If you ever meat these "friends" just beat them over the head with a potato.

I'm not the only lucky girl around here Dave

Hahaha... yep, I'm sure they ooze class indeed . This is the first of this kinda holiday he's been on and they're really not the right kinds of places to go if you're in a relationship. I've done these kinds of holidays years ago so I knew more than him what to expect... I think he's just in shock over the whole setup perhaps

Heineken Helen

small town beck wrote:

Ah that sucks, Hels that his friends would be such asses but as already said I don't think you have anything to worry about!! Why encourage someone to cheat??? Anyway that would be a WHOLE other thread!

Hahahaha... yeh it would . I've seen groups of guys like this before... and in fairness there usually ARE one or two who just want to get drunk and enjoy themselves... I'm not sure I've ever seen any of the others trying to pressure them into anything though :mad:

audiodave

Heineken Helen wrote:

I'm not the only lucky girl around here Dave

I'm sure there's bound to be another one around here somewhere.

Sian-of-the-dead

audiodave wrote:

I'm sure there's bound to be another one around here somewhere.

*leaves thread quietly*

Heineken Helen

:rolleyes: Oh get a fucking room you two