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A Hurting Fan in Need of Support

StickmanJamStickmanJam Posts: 425
edited April 2013 in The Porch
Hey there,

My name is John, and I've been a 10c member and poster for 12 years now.

This past Tuesday (3/19), my girlfriend and soulmate passed away in a car accident. Needless to say, I've been a complete wreck all week. However, I've tried to remain strong to help her parents and sister through this horrific time.

In the past, I've seen posts like this on the board. I come to you all in need of support, as it's very hard to view the future with any kind of excitement or anticipation as I once had.

I'm lost. Totally lost without her.

I have a large support group, so that helps. However the only thing I want is her. For anyone that's gone through something like this, or has been close to those who have, please send me your encouragement and prayers.

Thank you.
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    LukinFanLukinFan Florida Posts: 29,005
    My prayers are with you and your girlfriend's family.
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    jonsey30jonsey30 Rochester Hills, MI Posts: 998
    Terribly sorry for you, I couldn't imagine. I'm thinking and praying for you and her family.

    Hang in there!
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    SEACIDESEACIDE Posts: 410
    My prayers, thought and condolences....
    Until you're ok lean on the ones you love.
    Love is all you need.....
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    slobberdog68slobberdog68 In Hiding Posts: 683
    John,
    I'm so sorry to hear about what has happened to your girlfriend.
    I have lost a lot of people in my life, but nothing as tragic as this so I wont pretend to understand.
    I can only wish you peace and strength in the days to come.

    Take Care
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    badbrainsbadbrains Posts: 10,255
    Bro, wow, i sure as hell cant relate to what youre going thru or about to go thru. But know this, It's ok to cry, yell, shout, punch something (not someone) when you have to. Dnt keep it in, all you'll be doing is self-polluting yourself. Wow man, hang in there
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    PureandEasyPureandEasy Posts: 5,774
    Very sorry for your loss and my prayers are with you and her family. I've lost loved ones as well, but never so suddenly as a car accident. I wish I could help you but all I can do is offer my sincere condolences.
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    menamena Posts: 53
    Dear John,
    I'm so sorry for your loss. I don't think anyone of us knows what you're feeling right now. I hope that all your friends and family support you and that you'll find some help and energy in Pearl Jam's music. That often helps, at least for me.
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    QuarterToTenQuarterToTen Cincinnati, Ohio Posts: 3,626
    Very sorry for your tragic loss.
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    PillowPantsPillowPants Posts: 4,873
    sending prayers your way - there are no words
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    dimitrispearljamdimitrispearljam NINUNINOPRO Posts: 139,158
    i really dont know what to say...im so sorry for your loss
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    DiRtYyELLoWoCeAnDiRtYyELLoWoCeAn Medford, Ma Posts: 1,605
    Sorry for your loss, i know it's hard but try and be strong! We are here if you need us!
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    derbydavederbydave Columbus, OH Posts: 11,254
    You & your girlfriends' family will be in my thoughts & prayers!!
    Hang in there and let the music help you through your difficult times.
    We're are all here for you when you need a helping hand or an ear to listen to your thoughts!!
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    troysp1troysp1 Posts: 412
    John,

    You will be in my prayers, so sorry for your loss.

    Sean
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    RedMosquito02RedMosquito02 Posts: 2,560
    So sorry to hear this, John :cry:

    Stay strong and use that support system you mentioned...you're going to need them.

    My best friend went through this exact thing 3 years ago this June. The healing takes time, sometimes more time than your willing to give, but you will get through it, man.

    Positive vibes and thoughts from the Wheeler family in Maine.
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    mydogmookieblaylockmydogmookieblaylock Posts: 2,996
    Hi John - I lost my brother in a car wreck 12 years ago. Didn't cry for a week because I wanted to be strong for my family - so i can certainly relate.
    I think being strong for her family is great and something you can always feel good about doing, however i would strongly advise you to find someone you can 'break down' to. A relative or friend away from the situation. You need and deserve to be able to do that.

    Stay strong my friend - time really does heal all wounds.
    So sorry for your loss.

    -Robb
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    PJForceofNaturePJForceofNature Posts: 3,087
    Dear John, I am so sorry to hear of your tragic loss. Please accept my deepest condolences, and know my prayers and thoughts are with you. Please let us know if there is anything you need. We are here for you.
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    rearviewrossrearviewross Posts: 3,055
    So sorry for you loss, sudden loss is very hard to deal with. I lost a very close cousin in a car accident, not the same level as you but the sudden loss is difficult. A lot of shock, denial, confusion. I don't think you need to be strong for anybody. Being able to cry and grieve with her family is important for you and them I think. In my experience you take turns being the strong one. I hope time will heal your broken heart.
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    shetellsherselfshetellsherself New Jersey Posts: 8,781
    John...I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. Please know that I am praying for your strength and peace.

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    cp3iversoncp3iverson Posts: 8,640
    My Prayers are definitely with you, John. None of us are here forever but you made someone incredibly happy while they were here. That's what counts.
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    Given to...Given to... Wyoming Posts: 4,977
    I hold you in my thoughts. Please know we care for all of you that have suffered this loss.
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    8181 Needing a ride to Forest Hills and a ounce of weed. Please inquire within. Thanks. Or not. Posts: 58,276
    there are no words that i can type that can possibly make you feel better....


    so cherish the great times that you shared..celebrate the memories that were created....mourn the loss, but don't stop living.
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    jasonjason Posts: 468
    We are all hear for you buddy in this tough time. Hope we can help! Prayers are with ya!
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    pandorapandora Posts: 21,855
    soulmate ...
    someday this will ease the ache
    prayers are with you John
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    WobbieWobbie Posts: 29,458
    John - I've had some crappy things happen to me too....I quit trying to figure out why...lean on your support group and the people in this forum...as people have said, time will eventually almost heal your wound. I hope you someday can think of your soulmate and smile, rather than cry.
    If I had known then what I know now...

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    brianluxbrianlux Moving through All Kinds of Terrain. Posts: 40,711
    Very sorry to hear about your loss, John. I hope you find comfort in the coming days and years in fond memories and wish you all the best. The PJ forum is filled with a lot of fine people and you'll get a lot of love and support here.
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    hedonisthedonist standing on the edge of forever Posts: 24,524
    So very very sorry...good thoughts and energy from here. I hope even just a bit of that from everyone here comes through to you and brings just a bit of comfort.
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    northern spiritnorthern spirit I'm not present, I'm a drug that makes you dream Posts: 186
    I am sorry to hear about your heartbreaking loss John.I wish you peace and love.You will be in my prayers.
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    Longest RoadLongest Road Posts: 264
    Positive vibes from Maryland, stay strong brother.
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    whispering handswhispering hands Under your skin Posts: 13,527
    John.. I have NO idea what to say. I have never
    Had the opportunity to love someone like that...
    But I think if I did, and I lost them like that, I
    would be list too. I am praying for you, your, and
    Her families.. We are ALLL here for you.
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    JaneNYJaneNY Posts: 4,438
    How horrible for you and her family. I'm so sorry for your loss. I've lost both my parents. Give yourself time and don't expect anything of yourself for a while. Take time to do nothing. You do not have to meet anyone's expectations on how to react and deal with this.
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