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Passing of My Grandson and the Pearl Jam Community

dirtyTdirtyT Posts: 3,620
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I would like to take this opportunity to thank this amazing community of Pearl Jam fans.

On December 31, sadly and unexpectedly, my wife and I lost our youngest of 3 grandsons, 7 month old Clayton Edward. Needless to say our lives have felt a little less complete since that morning. This is something we have never dealt with and the pain our daughter is feeling has been equally hard as there is just nothing we can say or do; no way to fix it. Immediately, we were surrounded by so much love and support from friends, family and our local community. So much so, it has been an overwhelming experience.

Where we did not anticipate an outcry of support is from the Pearl Jam community. I found this photo of Clayton in his Pearl Jam onesie and sent it to a friend, who in turn posted it on the Pearl Jam Fan Club Facebook page. Immediately we were getting messages of encouragement and prayers. At some point, the We Go Fund link made its way there that was set up for my daughter, and we have had around $1,000 donated from Pearl Jam fans. Perfect strangers who don't know us felt compelled to help when for all we know we only have this band in common; no words. What an amazing group of people you are!

Just wanna say thanks to anyone who reached out, bless you. It is amazing to see how amazing people can really be. I was going to post the picture of my grandson on here in his PJ onesie but couldn't. So, to baby Clayton....sometimes is seen a strange spot in the sky, a human being that was given to fly.... May 11, 2017 - December 31, 2017.


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    deadendpdeadendp Northeast Ohio Posts: 10,434
    So incredibly sorry to hear of your loss of Clayton. Much love to you and your family. 
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    dancinacrossthewaterdancinacrossthewater Posts: 800
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    NewJPageNewJPage Posts: 3,300
    So sorry to hear this. What a great smile. Keep that with you.
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    iwasatpj20iwasatpj20 Rockford, IL Posts: 3,300
    Sorry for your loss, will keep little Clayton in my thoughts and prayers.
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    giventofly69giventofly69 Vancouver Posts: 849
    So sorry for your devastating loss. You and your family are in my thoughts. 
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    F Me In The BrainF Me In The Brain this knows everybody from other commets Posts: 30,619
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    So very sorry for you and your family on a loss like this. 
    Do you feel comfortable sharing the link here for those 10C members who may not use Facebook?
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    SD48277SD48277 Woodstock, NY Posts: 12,242
     My deepest sympathy for you and your family. 
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    jjflashjjflash Posts: 4,840
    I'm sorry to hear of your loss, T. Much love and sympathy to you and your family.
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    bbiggsbbiggs Posts: 6,931
    I’m very sorry to hear of your loss.  I will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers. 
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    Ray J. T.Ray J. T. Posts: 3,861
    Our prayers and thoughts go out to your family.
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    HughFreakingDillonHughFreakingDillon Winnipeg Posts: 35,832
    friends of ours lost their daughter at 8 months to a horrible disease. it was devastating to them, obviously. I can't imagine the pain. I'm very sorry to you and your loved ones. 
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    dankinddankind I am not your foot. Posts: 20,827
    RIP, Baby Clayton. It is absolutely devastating and heartbreaking to read about your loss, @dirtyT

    Here's some more love and support to you and yours.
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    Thirty Bills UnpaidThirty Bills Unpaid Posts: 16,881
    Gee. That's rough. I'm sorry for this as well.
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    cincybearcatcincybearcat Posts: 16,106
    Wow...no words.  Take care of your family.  Hold onto those that remain with all your love.
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    stuckinlinestuckinline Posts: 3,358
    Dirty T, I'm so very sorry for your loss.....just speechless.
    Know that the PJ community is here for you as you walk the long road, please let us know if you need anything.

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    3days3days Posts: 1,152
    dirty T, I can't imagine how difficult this time must be for you and your family. I'm glad you've been able to find comfort in the Pearl Jam family.
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    FoxyRedLaFoxyRedLa Lauren / MI Posts: 4,810
    Beautiful angel. RIP baby Clayton. Xoxo
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    hedonisthedonist standing on the edge of forever Posts: 24,524
    Best of thoughts and strength to your family.  I hope that holding on to each other brings some comfort.
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    mwplummwplum Posts: 1,509
    I can’t even begin to find the words...I am so sorry to hear of your family’s tragic loss. Although I’m sure it means very little, we are sending much love and support to your family. May baby Clayton live on in your memories, and I hope that one day you are all reunited.
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    nicknyr15nicknyr15 Posts: 7,759
    No words. Sometimes life is so unfair. My deep condolences 
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    chitownp76chitownp76 Posts: 1,438
    Thoughts and prayers with you and your family.
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    electronblueelectronblue WPB Florida Posts: 3,458
    My deepest sympathy.
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    PJForceofNaturePJForceofNature Posts: 3,087
    I was so sorry to hear about baby Clayton. Please accept my deepest condolences to you and your family. Sending much love and prayers your way.
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    hrd2imgnhrd2imgn Southwest Burbs of Chicago Posts: 4,867
    God bless the little guy, so sorry for your family's loss
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    nuzzer1nuzzer1 New Jersey Posts: 1,432
    Very sorry for your loss and for your families loss. Thoughts and prayers.
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    deftonesdeftones Athens, Greece Posts: 2,444
    No words..so sorry for your loss.
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    Gern BlanstenGern Blansten Your Mom's Posts: 17,960
    so very sorry to see this....
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    lolobugglolobugg BLUE RDGE MTNS Posts: 8,189

    I can't imagine what you are going thru right now.

    sending love your way.

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