What is to report? Guy chats with you, you're not into it. Say as much. Speaking your mind with honesty and maybe kindness too isn't tantamount to being an asshole.
Wish I knew what else to say beyond some good and sage advice given here. And really, no need to let your mind lead you on those "what if" roads. I recall you being down them before. Surely there are some coping methods at hand.
It's really OK to stand up for yourself when warranted. Give it a go. The first step may be the hardest but it's also the most necessary.
And it's part of this life.
So go get 'em.
The fact that out of a whole room full of treadmills to choose from he chooses the one next to me. Doesn't that just sound creepy? Noone does that at the gym, people like their personal space.
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No disrespect but it seems as though when you have a complication and you ask for advice, everything anyone suggest will never work. There is always a list of why things won't work. (Not just this situation.)
It seems that this guy scares you to death. You are afraid that roid rage, meth rage or his hot pot of crazy will whoop your ass and I'm sorry for that. Your gym experience shouldn't be like that. You shouldn't have to look over your shoulder as you are working out. Ultimately, change is up to you since he just doesn't get it.
Headphones might be an easy place to start. You don't even have to listen to music. Just looking like you are using them will deter most people.
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Who needs a creepy dude at the gym making weird comments when you can have a dude on a Pearl Jam message board making equally creepy comments and taking your situation lightly?
Who needs a creepy dude at the gym making weird comments when you can have a dude on a Pearl Jam message board making equally creepy comments and taking your situation lightly?
No discouragement intended. I think the depression may be the root concern, if that was gone maybe you could see more of the humorous side of the story. Maybe even make a friend.
The worst of times..they don't phase me, even if I look and act really crazy.
Creepy/Weird that always tries to chat with me comes and uses the treadmill next to me at the gym when there are 10 other treadmills to choose from and tries to have a chat with me. "Do you like Football (Aussie Rules)/Soccer?" (I lied and said NO to both sports questions to try and end the conversation) "Do you watch Married at first sight?" "Fucking Lesbians they make me sick" "I've been here for 4 hours, you know, to get the blood up"
That was some of what went on the other day. I was alone in the treadmill room in the gym and he comes next to me. He also kept checking out my screen to see what pace I was running and at the end of his run he said he could do better, like as if he was competing with me. Previously he always says hi and wants to chat, he does this to other people to.
Should I be worried? Report him to management?
Is his name Ani?
this was my first thought as well.
Anything you lose from being honest You never really had to begin with.
Sometimes it's not the song that makes you emotional it's the people and things that come to your mind when you hear it.
Headphones are easy. Get a pair of ear buds for like 2 dollars. Hook it up to whatever portable device you have music on. If not, just run the cord into your pocket
Who needs a creepy dude at the gym making weird comments when you can have a dude on a Pearl Jam message board making equally creepy comments and taking your situation lightly?
Who needs a creepy dude at the gym making weird comments when you can have a dude on a Pearl Jam message board making equally creepy comments and taking your situation lightly?
No discouragement intended. I think the depression may be the root concern, if that was gone maybe you could see more of the humorous side of the story. Maybe even make a friend.
headphones are a good idea but i think you should definitely mention it to a manger. maybe he has done this to someone else and has been reported before. a good manager will at least keep their eye on the guy if they feel something might be up. i say mention it.
My suggestion for OP is to move to another treadmill as soon as he does this. Maybe say something like, "excuse me but I find it easier to work out by myself." Then, if he tried to move to another treadmill near you it would be possible to make a complaint. He would be deliberately following you.
or you could be better than the rest of us and talk to him for a bit ...
Honesty, how is it possible to have a conversation in the middle of a run on a treadmill?
Alright, alright, alright!
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Fight fire with fire. Ask him if he wants to see the collection of Barbie doll heads in your locker. Maybe if you act creepier than him, he will avoid you.
TA I hope you know we are all here to help you through this even if you don't find some responses funny. Sometimes laughter is key and everyone's wit around here
We have always been taught - if you see anything suspicious, report it.
Oh please let it rain today.
Those that can be trusted can change their mind.
or you could be better than the rest of us and talk to him for a bit ...
Honesty, how is it possible to have a conversation in the middle of a run on a treadmill?
100% true. My wife called me while I was on the elliptical and I got maybe two words out lol. Headphones are key and very cheap. Or move to another machine. Or if he comes over while you are running stop and go to abs/lift or circuit train. You can always go back to running, just keep that heart rate up!!
Thanks for the suggestion. In ear usually pop out of my ear when I am running. I like headband types. Beats are popular but I wouldn't pay the price they sell for.
Adelaide 17/11/2009, Melbourne 20/11/2009, Sydney 22/11/2009, Melbourne (Big Day Out Festival) 24/01/2014
Who needs a creepy dude at the gym making weird comments when you can have a dude on a Pearl Jam message board making equally creepy comments and taking your situation lightly?
Who needs a creepy dude at the gym making weird comments when you can have a dude on a Pearl Jam message board making equally creepy comments and taking your situation lightly?
No discouragement intended. I think the depression may be the root concern, if that was gone maybe you could see more of the humorous side of the story. Maybe even make a friend.
I am feeling fine, that's not the issue here.
Adelaide 17/11/2009, Melbourne 20/11/2009, Sydney 22/11/2009, Melbourne (Big Day Out Festival) 24/01/2014
headphones are a good idea but i think you should definitely mention it to a manger. maybe he has done this to someone else and has been reported before. a good manager will at least keep their eye on the guy if they feel something might be up. i say mention it.
How to point him out is the question, I might have to get the manager to follow me to him and me give a signal of some sort haha
Adelaide 17/11/2009, Melbourne 20/11/2009, Sydney 22/11/2009, Melbourne (Big Day Out Festival) 24/01/2014
Creepy/Weird that always tries to chat with me comes and uses the treadmill next to me at the gym when there are 10 other treadmills to choose from and tries to have a chat with me. "Do you like Football (Aussie Rules)/Soccer?" (I lied and said NO to both sports questions to try and end the conversation) "Do you watch Married at first sight?" "Fucking Lesbians they make me sick" "I've been here for 4 hours, you know, to get the blood up"
That was some of what went on the other day. I was alone in the treadmill room in the gym and he comes next to me. He also kept checking out my screen to see what pace I was running and at the end of his run he said he could do better, like as if he was competing with me. Previously he always says hi and wants to chat, he does this to other people to.
Should I be worried? Report him to management?
Is his name Ani?
this was my first thought as well.
I don't get it.
Adelaide 17/11/2009, Melbourne 20/11/2009, Sydney 22/11/2009, Melbourne (Big Day Out Festival) 24/01/2014
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Doesn't that just sound creepy?
Noone does that at the gym, people like their personal space.
No disrespect but it seems as though when you have a complication and you ask for advice, everything anyone suggest will never work. There is always a list of why things won't work. (Not just this situation.)
It seems that this guy scares you to death. You are afraid that roid rage, meth rage or his hot pot of crazy will whoop your ass and I'm sorry for that. Your gym experience shouldn't be like that. You shouldn't have to look over your shoulder as you are working out. Ultimately, change is up to you since he just doesn't get it.
Headphones might be an easy place to start. You don't even have to listen to music. Just looking like you are using them will deter most people.
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Headphones are the way to go. If he sees you wearing them, he won't talk to you nor will anyone else. I use these & they are AMAZING.
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even if I look and act really crazy.
You never really had to begin with.
Sometimes it's not the song that makes you emotional it's the people and things that come to your mind when you hear it.
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TA I hope you know we are all here to help you through this even if you don't find some responses funny. Sometimes laughter is key and everyone's wit around here
We have always been taught - if you see anything suspicious, report it.
Those that can be trusted can change their mind.
Headphones are key and very cheap. Or move to another machine. Or if he comes over while you are running stop and go to abs/lift or circuit train. You can always go back to running, just keep that heart rate up!!