I am a Dad once more!!

2-feign-reluctance2-feign-reluctance Posts: 16,218
edited October 11 in All Encompassing Trip
Talk to me. What's it like? Chances of us having a second aren't looking good & its been tough on me.

EDIT: Last night Isabelle Jane Lee arrived healthy & beautiful making me a Dad for the second time. Today I am a blessed man. 


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  • whispering handswhispering hands Under your skinPosts: 13,527

    Talk to me. What's it like? Chances of us having a second aren't looking good & its been tough on me.

    Why not adopt?
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    The first rule of the ten club fight club is you don't talk about the ten club fight club!
  • FifthelementFifthelement LotuslandPosts: 5,227
    edited January 27
    I'm sorry to hear that. It must be hard to take right now. I'm afraid I can't offer any advice, just (((hugs))).
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  • Talk to me. What's it like? Chances of us having a second aren't looking good & its been tough on me.

    Why not adopt?
    Not something I want to do for too many reasons.
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  • hauntingfamiliarhauntingfamiliar Wilmington, NCPosts: 7,626
    I've one. A nine-year-old girl and she is the reason for my existence.
  • hedonisthedonist standing on the edge of foreverPosts: 18,243
    Is it tough on your child as well? If not...maybe that question is something you can resolve in time, separately.

    I do respect whatever your (and your wife's) reasons for not adopting may be.
  • hauntingfamiliarhauntingfamiliar Wilmington, NCPosts: 7,626
    I won't say it's easy...it's not. It does get easier though, the older they get...and if there are fun neighborhood kids. And also....it's the only thing they know. Sure, I went through the whole, "so and so has brothers and sisters, why don't I" guilt trip phase with my daughter. And I am from from a big family....it can be hard sometimes. But, hey, sometimes life just happens the way it happens. It did for me and now I have a beautiful, extraordinary daughter.
  • AnnafalkAnnafalk SwedenPosts: 3,262

    Talk to me. What's it like? Chances of us having a second aren't looking good & its been tough on me.

    Sometimes cousins can be like siblings.
  • deadendpdeadendp Northeast OhioPosts: 6,157
    My kiddo is an only but not. She is adopted with siblings in other homes.

    Is she well adjusted and great? Absolutely!

    Does she live a life a bit different than children who have other kiddos in the house? Yes. There are pluses and minuses.

    She has gone to museum lectures and concerts, appointments, funerals, programs and all sorts of things with us. She is capable of having appropriate conversations with adults. She is an only raised by two blunt adults who has allowed her to ask any question she has ever had. She has and does talk with us about everything.

    Does she get lonely and pester me about where we can go, what we can do and all that? Sweet love, yes. Does she have two neighbor girls who are also both only children? Yup. Do we study together with her as opposed to sibling help? Yes.

    Having one child isn't something we planned, but it was how life worked out for us. We wouldn't trade K for anything and wouldn't trade the experiences that we have had with her for anything. I will also admit that my daughter's ADD and OCD has led us to say many times, "God knew what he was doing when he gave us only one."

    We love her dearly and you know what? We are good with one.
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  • Thanks for the words guys!
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  • whispering handswhispering hands Under your skinPosts: 13,527
    Best of luck to you guys!
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  • Wma31394Wma31394 Posts: 2,864
    Keep slippin em past the keeper..we were told the same and kept trying and had #2. I know situations are difcerent..best of luck.
    "Going where the water tastes like wine!"
  • EB218946EB218946 New JerseyPosts: 1,643
    2-feign I hope everything works out for you. Sorry you are struggling. Just want to send some good vibes your way. I always appreciate reading your posts on these forums. Ed
  • hedonisthedonist standing on the edge of foreverPosts: 18,243
    deadendp said:

    My kiddo is an only but not. She is adopted with siblings in other homes.

    Is she well adjusted and great? Absolutely!

    Does she live a life a bit different than children who have other kiddos in the house? Yes. There are pluses and minuses.

    She has gone to museum lectures and concerts, appointments, funerals, programs and all sorts of things with us. She is capable of having appropriate conversations with adults. She is an only raised by two blunt adults who has allowed her to ask any question she has ever had. She has and does talk with us about everything.

    Does she get lonely and pester me about where we can go, what we can do and all that? Sweet love, yes. Does she have two neighbor girls who are also both only children? Yup. Do we study together with her as opposed to sibling help? Yes.

    Having one child isn't something we planned, but it was how life worked out for us. We wouldn't trade K for anything and wouldn't trade the experiences that we have had with her for anything. I will also admit that my daughter's ADD and OCD has led us to say many times, "God knew what he was doing when he gave us only one."

    We love her dearly and you know what? We are good with one.

    I meant to say earlier how much I love this post, and your perspective(s). K is a lucky and lovely young lady.
  • dankinddankind I am not your foot. Posts: 9,688
    All I can say is those were the days.
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  • hedonisthedonist standing on the edge of foreverPosts: 18,243
    dankind said:

    All I can say is those were the days.

    Boy, the way Glenn Miller played.
  • PoncierPoncier Posts: 8,136
    hedonist said:

    dankind said:

    All I can say is those were the days.

    Boy, the way Glenn Miller played.
    Songs that made the hit parade.
    This weekend we rock Portland
  • My niece is an only child and I think she likes it that way. :lol: But seriously, I know it was hard on my brother not to have any more children but they had such a tough time conceiving my niece (two fertility specialists) that I think he realized how lucky they were to have one.
    I'm through with screaming
  • hauntingfamiliarhauntingfamiliar Wilmington, NCPosts: 7,626
    Annafalk said:

    Talk to me. What's it like? Chances of us having a second aren't looking good & its been tough on me.

    Sometimes cousins can be like siblings.
    True. My daughter is very close to her cousins. It is a sibling-like bond. Just wish they lived a little closer.
  • dudemandudeman Posts: 1,416
    Hang in there, man. We only have one. She gets a lot of attention, we take her places all the time, read a lot of books, teach her about everything we know and make sure she stays engaged and interested in learning.

    She spends a lot of time with our friends kids who are all around the same age.

    Sincerely, I hope that things work out for you the way you want. Best wishes.
    If hope can grow from dirt like me, it can be done. - EV
  • hedonisthedonist standing on the edge of foreverPosts: 18,243
    Poncier said:

    hedonist said:

    dankind said:

    All I can say is those were the days.

    Boy, the way Glenn Miller played.
    Songs that made the hit parade.
    And...Archie & Edith had only one child.

  • For the record we got pregnant with our first after one night unprotected. So, nearly 4 years later and what? Nothing works anymore? She's seeing a doc in a few days so I guess we'll find out something. I'll be 39 and she 36 on the same day this March. At our age I've read if after 6 months of active (more like crazy amount of sex for us) you're not pregnant, then go see someone. 6 months of trying ends next week.
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  • Also, no family history of difficulties. Maybe the microcell booster I set up 2 yrs ago fried my sperm.
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  • FoxyRedLaFoxyRedLa Lauren / MIPosts: 4,393
    2FR. I read your post. Chose not to post because I'm not the right person to. I'm reading responses and it didn't occur to me that your adorable daughter might have been asking for a sibling. Not sure that's the case.

    I had one daughter for almost 11 years. And I agree haunting. My whole entire world.

    And just naturally between you and your wife I agree with WMA - keep slippin em! Men ha!
    Oh please let it rain today.
    Those that can be trusted can change their mind.
  • mcgruff10mcgruff10 New JerseyPosts: 12,141

    For the record we got pregnant with our first after one night unprotected. So, nearly 4 years later and what? Nothing works anymore? She's seeing a doc in a few days so I guess we'll find out something. I'll be 39 and she 36 on the same day this March. At our age I've read if after 6 months of active (more like crazy amount of sex for us) you're not pregnant, then go see someone. 6 months of trying ends next week.

    hey bud. many of my friends tried tried and tried then lost hope. it seems after they stopped trying most were usually pregnant pretty quick. maybe no more stress....who knows. good luck my friend.
    I'll ride the wave where it takes me......
  • PoncierPoncier Posts: 8,136

    For the record we got pregnant with our first after one night unprotected. So, nearly 4 years later and what? Nothing works anymore? She's seeing a doc in a few days so I guess we'll find out something. I'll be 39 and she 36 on the same day this March. At our age I've read if after 6 months of active (more like crazy amount of sex for us) you're not pregnant, then go see someone. 6 months of trying ends next week.

    You should tell her you read that you need to try for a year straight instead of 6 months. =)
    This weekend we rock Portland
  • 2-feign-reluctance2-feign-reluctance Posts: 16,218
    8 weeks pregnant good people....got to see baby #2 Wednesday. Everything looking excellent - seeing that beating heart, the start of little hands and feet....oh so overwhelming and good....thanks for all the thoughts.
    www.cluthelee.com
  • dankinddankind I am not your foot. Posts: 9,688

    8 weeks pregnant good people....got to see baby #2 Wednesday. Everything looking excellent - seeing that beating heart, the start of little hands and feet....oh so overwhelming and good....thanks for all the thoughts.

    You fucker! :wink:
    I SAW PEARL JAM
  • mcgruff10mcgruff10 New JerseyPosts: 12,141

    8 weeks pregnant good people....got to see baby #2 Wednesday. Everything looking excellent - seeing that beating heart, the start of little hands and feet....oh so overwhelming and good....thanks for all the thoughts.

    Nice work!!
    I'll ride the wave where it takes me......
  • FoxyRedLaFoxyRedLa Lauren / MIPosts: 4,393
    Wahooooooo! So there's only one? :lol: bummer haha
    Oh please let it rain today.
    Those that can be trusted can change their mind.
  • hauntingfamiliarhauntingfamiliar Wilmington, NCPosts: 7,626

    8 weeks pregnant good people....got to see baby #2 Wednesday. Everything looking excellent - seeing that beating heart, the start of little hands and feet....oh so overwhelming and good....thanks for all the thoughts.

    :rock_on: Congratulations!!!!!
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