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It's Ok tag in Quebec for my wife and son
Earlier this year my wife and I woke up to my 2 week old son barely breathing and was greyish blue in colour. I pinched him on the hand as hard as I could and he didn't even move or cry. We rushed him into the hospital and upon arrival we were swarmed by at least 20 medical staff. They worked on him for 30 of the longest minutes of our lives when he finally let out a huge whale of a cry. My wife and I just held each other crying tears of joy.
He had to be kept in intensive care and was hooked up to everything you can imagine. It was heart breaking to look at with him being so young. It turns out he was battling pneumonia and a strong dose of respiratory syncytial virus. During this time my wife never left his side. I don't think she slept even an hour a night while at the hospital. On the second day I was coming into the room with our other son and I stopped for a second outside the curtain. I could hear my wife singing the chorus of "It's Ok" to my son as she was was rocking him in her arms. When I walked in she had tears streaming down her face. This song I would later find out played a big part in allowing my wife to cope with the events that just happened and the recovery that was to follow. Even now every time this song comes on we are reminded how fortunate we are for him to make a full recovery. That day will forever be tied to that song.
We have huge regrets from this incident that we did not catch it sooner. We were told if we slept in a couple of more hours and did not detect our sons ailments things would have been much different. Because of this my wife has been extremely hard on herself since we left the hospital and has been glued to the monitor not missing a beat when he sleeps. If this song is played as a tag at the end of Daughter I truly feel my wife will be able to move on from this life changing event and we can look to the future.
This request is not about recognition or sympathy. If it is played no acknowledgement is wanted. My wife has no clue I am doing this and I would like it to be kept that way since we are very private people. I feel selfish as it is tying up this board with another request but I know I would regret it after the show if I didn't even try. If it is not played no worries, we will enjoy the show just as much and I am sure we will catch it another time. You guys are the best band in the world and I can not wait to rock out in Quebec.
He had to be kept in intensive care and was hooked up to everything you can imagine. It was heart breaking to look at with him being so young. It turns out he was battling pneumonia and a strong dose of respiratory syncytial virus. During this time my wife never left his side. I don't think she slept even an hour a night while at the hospital. On the second day I was coming into the room with our other son and I stopped for a second outside the curtain. I could hear my wife singing the chorus of "It's Ok" to my son as she was was rocking him in her arms. When I walked in she had tears streaming down her face. This song I would later find out played a big part in allowing my wife to cope with the events that just happened and the recovery that was to follow. Even now every time this song comes on we are reminded how fortunate we are for him to make a full recovery. That day will forever be tied to that song.
We have huge regrets from this incident that we did not catch it sooner. We were told if we slept in a couple of more hours and did not detect our sons ailments things would have been much different. Because of this my wife has been extremely hard on herself since we left the hospital and has been glued to the monitor not missing a beat when he sleeps. If this song is played as a tag at the end of Daughter I truly feel my wife will be able to move on from this life changing event and we can look to the future.
This request is not about recognition or sympathy. If it is played no acknowledgement is wanted. My wife has no clue I am doing this and I would like it to be kept that way since we are very private people. I feel selfish as it is tying up this board with another request but I know I would regret it after the show if I didn't even try. If it is not played no worries, we will enjoy the show just as much and I am sure we will catch it another time. You guys are the best band in the world and I can not wait to rock out in Quebec.
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Good thoughts to your family and hope your little one continues to thrive.
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I was hunting for it myself at the Philly and MSG shows but alas, it wasn't to be this time around. Maybe next time.
While the versions they played in 2000 definitely had bittersweet emotion on the heels of Rothskilde, the 9/11/11 is the greatest IMO. Just something about Ed's voice inflection and how he is seemingly pleading really makes it. On the boot you can literally hear some guy at the very end scream an emotional "Thank You". So great.
https://youtu.be/eIixVZ1y2zo
I have fantastic idea of how you can help your wife in her healing/forgiving process!
Why don't you insist that she go to the Quebec concert with one of her girl friends, while you stay at home and keep watch over your infant son?
That way, your wife gets the time off she so richly deserves - and needs - and she won't be consumed with worry about your son's well being the whole night.
It's a win/win situation! Your wife gets a worry-free night out and you get the satisfaction of having done something really loving, kind and generous for your wife and son!
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All you two will have to be concerned with is having a FANTASTIC time!
I really hope you and your wife get your song.
... And I actually hope you get your song before I get mine (Get Right thread). I would love to hear both.
My wife and I had a very similar experience two years ago. Our daughter was 2 months old and by coincidence we were watching PJ20 around 9:20 pm on a Monday night. Our daughter was asleep while my wife was holding her and she sensed that something wasn't right. We threw the lights and found she had stopped breathing and was turning blue. I grabbed her lifeless little body from my wife and started doing CPR while my wife called 911. It only took EMS about 5 minutes to get there but she still wasn't breathing and turning a very deep blue. It took about another 12-15 minutes of EMS doing CPR to finally get her to breath. They quickly rushed her to the hospital where she stayed in NICU for 3 weeks. For the first week she would stop breathing about every two hours long enough to start turning blue but never quite to the point of needing CPR again. Leading up to this event we had her at the pediatrician twice in the previous 5 days because she had this "cold" that wouldn't go away but never in a million years did the pediatrician or us see this coming. She just didn't give any signs she was that ill.
Ultimately she tested positive for pertussis (whooping cough) in the hospital. Ironically she was scheduled to get her first pertussis vaccination the day after she stopped breathing. (Vaccination soap box - people, get your f'n kids vaccinated so you don't kill other people's kids!! Our daughter was lucky but so many other babies aren't.) There was no violent coughing outbursts or crying leading up to her not breathing. She just quietly went from sleeping to not breathing. Had my wife not been holding her at that moment and she instead been in her bassinet the outcome would have been tragically different. A miracle really. Two years later she is a perfectly healthy littler toddler.
Oh, it's a fragile thing
This life we lead
If I think too much I can get overwhelmed by the grace
By which we live our lives with death over our shoulders
Bless your wife and her intuition.
(CPR soapbox)
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2013 - 10/12, 11/24
2011 - 9/14
2005 - 9/16
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